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How to Have a Successful Threesome

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Lots of people using adult dating sites are looking for threesomes. Whether it’s a couple looking for a third person to join them or singles looking to join others, threesomes are one of the hookups commonly searched for on casual sex dating sites.

Before looking at how to have a successful threesome, let’s get up to speed with the common phrases associated with threesomes. It’s useful to know what these terms mean when searching online for sex partners.

Common Threesome Terms

Below is a list of the most common threesome terms to familiarise yourself with if you’re looking to get involved.

Guest Star - Describes a person that’s joining a couple for a threesome.
Voyeur - Someone who enjoys watching others.
Exhibitionist - Someone who enjoys other people watching.
DP - This describes double penetration - when a participant’s two orifices are penetrated at the same time.
Devils Threesome - A threesome between two men and one woman. Same as FMF.
Unicorn - A bisexual person who wants to be involved in a threesome with a couple. Usually a female.
Cuckold - A man who is aroused by his female partner having sex with another man
Cuck Queen - a women who is aroused by her partner having sex with another woman
MMF - Threesomes that involve a male, male and female combination.
FMF - Female, male, female threesomes.
GGG - good, giving and game - in other words, when joining a threesome, participants should be good in bed, giving to all sex partners, and game for anything.

Now we understand the threesome language, it's time to get to grips with how to have the best threesome possible. 

How to Have A Successful Threesome

When done well, threesomes can be exciting, exhilarating and a lot of fun. But jumping into bed with three people doesn’t mean everyone will automatically know what to do with each other’s body parts. Having a threesome is one thing, but making it successful and enjoyable for everyone takes a little bit of work. Without it, it’s likely there’ll be a fair bit of fumbling, some awkward positions, and someone ending up feeling left out. Here are some useful tips on how to have a successful threesome.

Set the Boundaries

This is an incredibly important aspect of having a threesome, that many make the mistake of skipping beforehand. Setting boundaries before a threesome helps to ensure everyone feels a lot safer and more relaxed about what’s going to happen. There may be some off-limit areas for some participants, or things they just aren’t into. Knowing what these boundaries are avoids any problems mid-session that could kill the mood.

Some examples of boundaries include whether there is free reign to penetrate everyone, whether all parties are allowed to kiss each other, or give oral sex etc. If these boundaries are clear before you start, everyone will be much more relaxed.

Communicate

For all participants to enjoy a threesome, it’s a good idea to know what everyone is wanting from it. As well as boundaries, find out what sex expectations people have, and what they want from the threesome. Make sure you’ve communicated fantasies or desires together first. Talk about safe sex and make sure everyone understands this. Should there be sex toys?

What happens after the main event? Will there be a sleepover, cuddles. Agree this all beforehand to avoid awkward moments between you all.

Don’t Pretend

It’s critical that nobody feels like a third wheel when the threesome gets underway. If you’re feeling uncomfortable or not getting aroused, don’t pretend. Be honest with your play partners, and change up what’s going on so that you’re all involved and aroused.

Mix It Up

There’s a lot of multitasking involved in threesomes. Finding the best threesome sex positions for you all can also take a bit of work. Bear in mind that some positions might work better for some but not all of you. So it’s a good idea to mix it up, and don’t stay in one position for too long. If one enjoys watching, make sure this isn’t for too long, as it could lead to them feeling left out.

Manage Expectations

While threesomes can be erotic, don’t expect to re-enact a porn video, as it’s unlikely to live up to this expectation. We should all know porn isn’t real life. It’s a multi million pound industry that involves sets, theatre and actors. Put what you have seen to one side, and enjoy the real life bodies.

Be Prepared

Don’t forget to get yourself prepped, and set the mood beforehand. Read here for 6 things to do before meeting up for sex. Always have extra condoms on hand, and make sure wipes, sex toys and other accessories are easily accessible.


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